Arguments, hurt feelings and sleepless nights can take over a trip you embark on with friends if you don’t do it right.
With a little planning travel with friends can help you grow closer together, give you some one-on-one time that you might not normally get and create memories you will be laughing about for years to come.
Over Labor Day weekend we met up with two of my best girlfriends and their families at Cannon Beach. Neither of them had ever been; it was fun to show just why we fell in love with this part of Oregon.
The kids played all day on the beach, flying kites, splashing in the frigid waters and building sand castles. The parents got to kick back, hang out in the sun, chat and eat a whole lot of junk food.
Part of the reason this worked so well is because I explore Seattle on a regular basis with Nic, Gen and their kids. We know each other’s parenting style; we are used to each other’s rhythms.
What made this a successful weekend?
- Moms got some kid-free time in town while the dads napped with the children at the hotel (hey, moms deserve a vacation too!)
- We talked about food we would share ahead of time.
- We all played breakfast by ear
- Everyone had their own car so no family was reliant on another
- Ideas for activities were thrown out to the group, if anyone wasn’t up for it they could do their own thing, no problem.
- We all arrived at the beach on separate days to accommodate our own schedules.
- Most important: We knew each other well enough that if something was going wrong we could just talk about it quickly before anyone started to obsess and seethe over a miscommunication or hurt feelings.
One thing we might change is the fact that we all had separate hotel rooms. On a future trip we hope to rent a big house. It would solve some of the problems of which parent gets to hang out in the hot tub late at night with friends while the other watches the kids. I can’t wait for the next trip we take!