Tips For Flying With A Baby: What I Learned On 26 Flights

I am an avid traveler; the more passport stamps, the better. And then I got pregnant. My friends said, “You’ll never travel again!” “It’s all over from here.” “Kiss that passport goodbye.” Apparently my friends thought flying with a baby would slow me down.

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Not exactly inspiring, friends.

I looked into the details and learned that in the US, children under 24 months old fly free, as long as they are in your lap. I decided to take full advantage of the rule.

By the time my daughter hit her 2nd birthday, she had flown on 11 different trips, with a total of 26 different flights of all sizes and flight times. We boarded 10 seat puddle hoppers in the Caribbean, a 737 overnight to Rome, quick hops from Chicago to Atlanta, California, New Orleans, and Denver. Can anyone say jet lag?

Each flight was unique and even the repeat trips were different because of how quickly they age and change. I learned a lot about flying with a baby and here’s some of what I figured out.

The Younger the Better

My first flight with Avi was at 3 months to Palm Springs, California for a much needed warm up after a bitter cold Chicago winter. We were so nervous leading up to it.

I was actually that mom who made small bags of treats with earplugs and a “Hi, it’s our first time flying, fingers crossed it doesn’t suck for anyone” (turns out our fellow passengers really appreciated the gesture). 

Barely able to sit up in my lap, the biggest trick was learning to juggle a nursing baby with a snack tray.

At 3-months-old, Avi nursed on takeoff, snoozed for the bulk of the trip, nursed on landing and barely made a peep. It was deceptively easy, and eased my anxieties enough to try more flights in relatively rapid succession.

The frequency of our coming travel helped make it easy and exciting for Avi. She got used to the process and looked forward to our next trips.

Bring a Change of Clothes for Baby and You

On the return flight from Palm Springs, another baby a few rows ahead of us vomited on take off. I realized there’s really nothing worse than sitting in your baby’s yuck while flying across a continent.

My advice, pack an extra top for mom/dad (or caretaker), as well as an extra outfit for the baby in your carry on bag. Spare blankets and burp rags are great too.

Tips for flying with a baby from someone who has actually been there and done that and done more than 26 flights with a baby before age three #travel #travelwithkids #babytravel #parenting #newparent

Let’s Get Excited

When our daughter was 5-months-old, we flew from Chicago to Atlanta to visit family. It was early October and we had a nice schedule, departure around 11am and a return flight a few days later around 5pm.

About a week in advance of the flight, we started telling Avi that we were going on an adventure and her eyes would light up, focus on us, seeming to ask us for more information.

“We’re going in an airplane!” “We will take the train to the airport, and then go through security, and then get on an airplane!”

She was so overstimulated by the new process, the break from routine, and the interest from those around us. She ended up zonking out on departure, was awake for a short time during the flight, and then zonked again on landing.

The key we learned at that point was to tell her of upcoming changes, and explain as it was happening. Babies are constantly learning, and by telling them what’s happening they feel much more settled and steady.

Any time she was unsure, she would look at us, wide eyed, and our explanations really seemed to soothe her.

By 5 months old, she was also very active and engaged in the scenes around her, which meant that my magazine reading days were over.

Flying with a baby is certainly less quiet.

A long day of travel is exhausting. Pack snacks.

At 10-months-old, we took our most grueling trip: a 16 hour travel trip that involved 3 airplanes, 2 continents, lots of delays and a tedious line for customs.

We left the house at 4am for a 7am flight. We woke her slowly, just before departure for the airport, so that she had the least disruption and down time.

After check in, we purchased bagels and bananas and filled up water bottles, preparing for a 3 hour flight which would be punctuated by a 2 hour layover. Snacks were planned pre-flight and a layover meal plan established so that when we landed, we could focus on getting a leg stretch, a nice meal and to the next gate in time.

That lunch was clutch, as the rest of the day fell apart.

Upon arrival in Belize, it took us 2 hours to get through customs, followed by another 3 hour wait for our puddle hopper to the island. We were running low on snacks and the baby’s’ energy.

Thankfully, miscellaneous yogurt squeezies, almonds and Lara bars carried us through the night.

Overnight, overhaul

At 15 months, I flew solo to Italy with Avi, who was a developing walker and very interested in the world around her.

The initial departure flight was delayed 7 hours before canceling at 11pm, and rescheduled for a flight 2 days later (turned out to be delayed about 4 hours).

We were exhausted before we even boarded the plane!

Once we finally boarded, the flight had been oversold, which meant there was no adjacent seat for my daughter. I had fed her a steady stream of snacks in the lobby to manage her energy, but once we took off she was overstimulated and fascinated by everything.

She insisted that I carry her, so we walked up and down the aisles for about 2 hours until she finally crashed out in my arms. I had brought along extra baby blankets, and laid them on the floor under the seat in front of me, where I laid her down for about an hour while I in turn took a much needed cat nap of my own.

There wasn’t much sleep for either of us, and she had a bit of a meltdown upon landing.

I held her close, thankful for the baby carrier as I was also struggling with luggage and a purse. I talked to her quietly through deplaning, customs and baggage claim. When we finally got settled into the car, she CRASHED OUT.

Jet lag is another story, but that flight was about as much as I could handle.

Almost Too Big

Just before her 2nd birthday, we decided to take one last flight to Sonoma to celebrate our wedding anniversary. This was the flight we realized it’s a good thing there’s an age limit on lap babies!

By 2-years-old, most kids are super active, busy little bees and squirmy to boot.

Holding 25 lbs of wiggle on your lap for one hour is challenging and extended flights are exponentially so. The management of food, drinks and arm strength are a non-stop struggle.

There is no way I could manage the tray table at my seat with a toddler in my lap.

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Tips for Flying With A Baby:

Baby Carrier

Managing luggage, coffee, gate details, tickets and food is complicated enough as a traveler; wear your baby through the airport as long as you can.

My carrier of choice for the first year was the JJ Cole Agility carrier. The carrier goes on like a vest, has no buckles or snaps and looks like a swagged layer over your shirt.

The lack of buckles and snaps means that you can wear it through security screening (some airlines request you remove carriers like ergo and similar on take off and landing). Bonus: the fabric panels can act as a nursing cover too!

Backpacks and Diaper Bags

Get yourself a good backpack or diaper bag that can also act as a day bag for yourself. A diaper clutch has also been key for us. We pop the clutch, filled with wipes and spare diapers, from one purse or backpack to another.

To bring the stroller or not?

We opted for the stroller on most trips. After lots of experimentation with a variety of styles and brands, we love the City Mini stroller.

The stroller is easy to fold, one-handed steering, durable, and it’s also under 20lbs so it can be gate checked.

Does your baby need a car seat?

It depends. We took advantage of the “under 24 months flies free” option, but that “free seat” is mom’s lap.

However, some airlines introduce car seat requirements depending on class of service. For example, on AlItalia, infants do not fly free in 1st class: they are required to have a paid seat of their own, and for that seat to have an FAA approved car seat snapped into it.

Most airlines will also wave the fee for checked carseats if they are needed at your destination.

Tip: Be sure to check the taxi car seat laws of your destination, some states require all passengers to be restrained properly regardless of the vehicle.

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Window or Aisle?

When baby is not yet mobile, you can get away with a window seat. By the time you’ve got a budding walker on your hands however, the aisle is where it’s easiest to facilitate movement on long flights.

What to wear?

You want easy access to passports, boarding passes, your phone, a safe spot to stash the pacifier and a bottle.

Sleek leggings, a simple top and a comfortable jacket with pockets are my uniform of choice when flying with a baby.

What can you bring through security and on board?

When you fly with an infant, you get a pass on expressed breastmilk and formula, and sometimes get a pass on bottled water and juice coming through security (be sure to say it’s for the baby’s needs).

We always carry a bunch of snacks. Our favorites include pouches, almonds, carrots, grapes, small oranges and crackers.

Any additional tips that made flying with a baby easier for you?
Share below! 

37 thoughts on “Tips For Flying With A Baby: What I Learned On 26 Flights”

  1. Esther

    Flying with our 4mth old for the first time next week (can’t wait!), so I’ll be reporting back 😉

    1. Tai Kojro-Badziak

      So how did it go!? Hope you had a great trip
      -tai

  2. Olivia

    We don’t have family near us, so we knew we a would be flying quite a bit with an infant. We opted for the Doona car seat/stroller – it’s incredibly easy for travel since the wheels are built into the carseat itself. It also buckles into any car without needing a base, so it’s great for cab rides. It will probably only with for us until he’s 1yr, but it’s totally worth it to us.

    1. Tai Kojro-Badziak

      NICE! I haven’t heard of that one – will check it out!
      -tai

  3. Elisse

    I loved reading this article because I had an almost identical experience and my daughter (now 25 months).
    She has been all over the country, 11 flights in total and on our last trip, which was only a two hour flight we decided she was too big and squirmy to be on my lap.
    I mostly skipped the stroller and opted for the baby carrier, though I did feel like a bit of a pack mule.

    1. Tai Kojro-Badziak

      Carrying ALL THE THINGS *and* a baby in front is definitely an adventure! Glad you’ve been able to enjoy so many adventures with your tiny one 🙂
      -tai

  4. Jacqueline

    As an ex flight attendant and soon to be mom, it’s nice to see a thought out and practical article! Snacks are a must as not many airlines have baby/todler friendly snacks on board. On international flights, breast milk/formula can be heated/chilled if needed. Many airlines have amenity kits for moms and baby. Just ask! Cabin crew are not allowed to WALK with an infant in their arms while on board. It’s a legal thing, but holding for a few minutes is usually ok! International carriers have baby bassinets so try to get a seat at the bulkhead if you can. Hope this helps!

  5. Sarah

    Congrats, you’re the person on the flight everyone hates.

    1. Liz Miller

      so – should parents not take their children to visit family if they live cross country or overseas? it seems like hating traveling parents and small children is your problem, not theirs.

    2. Sarah D.

      Only entitled primadonnas think that they deserve child-free spaces. I’ve seen adults behave worse in flights than most children or babies would. If you want a child-free flight than you should pay for first class.

    3. Dre

      What is wrong with you? Such a troll. “Congrats, you’re the person everyone on the internet hates” Haven’t you heard – I’d you don’t have anything positive to share then keep your mouth shut! This article is for people who enjoy traveling with their children. If it doesn’t apply to you or you didn’t find it helpful then move along, simple as that. No need to spread your negativity and unhappiness around.

  6. Michelle

    Seriously, f%&^ this. After suffering through a baby that screamed from the US to an hour before landing in Germany I am seriously done with people that travel with kids. I took my child on the first flight at age 9, intentionally. Most kids travel okay, but when they don’t, you literally ruin the flight for like 30 people around you. It’s not cute to give people a baggie with treats saying I’m sorry, this is my first flight – it’s rude and selfish on your part.

    1. Liz Miller

      so michelle, in your infinite wisdom, how do you suggest that anyone with kids under 9 visit family overseas or cross country? and how could you possibly know whether your child will be one of the “most kids” or one of the “rude and selfish” ones?

    2. Jimmy

      Some parents have no choice. As part of our custody agreement, my daughter splits her time with her mother and I who lives clear across the country. Rather than calling people selfish, maybe you should offer an alternative solution to parents who share custody of a child who live thousands of miles apart. I think you’re selfish complaining about a crying child. Get over yourself. Its just a baby.

      1. So so true! Thank you for sharing yet another reason parents travel with kids.

    3. Ahry

      Even though this is months later, this seriously makes me mad. My husband is active duty military and for him to see our son, we have to fly to him since it’s hard enough for him to get leave during the holidays. So you’re saying that he can’t physically hold his child for months or even years? wow. F### you.

    4. April

      It’s called noise cancelling earphones….get yourself some!!!

    5. Dre

      Michelle – get a grip! So what if your flight was ruined? So what if you waited to deprive your child of flying adventures until they were 9? We’re all free to make our own choices – doesn’t mean we have to pass judgement on others if their choices differ from ours. Grow up!

  7. Katie

    I don’t understand why they let the most precious cargo fly without a carrier. Infants should not be in laps. They should be in seats, strapped in safely.
    Heaven forbid there were a crash, the strapped in child would have a higher chance to survive whereas the lap child would likely be flung and killed.

    1. Katie…
      I’m wondering what the survival rate is when a plane crashes? 🤔 Honestly I don’t think a car seat would save our little babies if a plane crashes. If it did- we would all be in car seats while riding on a plane. 😊 They would make that a law too. There seems to be a law about everything these days 🙄
      I’m not meaning to be rude about it- just maybe thinking through it a little further to see if maybe your concern and claim would actually be correct or maybe a car seat wouldn’t really be that helpful in the end anyway- if there were a crash??

  8. Bettie Carlson

    Wow, seriously Michelle should not fly with other human beings! I have flown with twins since they were eleven months old with no issues. As long as adults realize these are infants, and I am doing realistically the best I can – supplying them with fluids to swallow during takeoff and landing to help with cabin pressure changes….traveling during their regular sleeping times so as not to disrupt their sleep patterns; a little empathy is appreciated.

    1. David

      Bettie,
      I will be traveling with my 15 month old twins soon. They are both walking and talking(making noise mostly). Any tips a parent of twins can give would help. Thanks in advance.
      Dave

  9. Bob

    At high altitudes the radiation level is elevated. With 26 flights you are pushing it up to the limit that’s considered safe for general public.

  10. SUNNY

    Please don’t sit next to me .
    Please don’t sit next to me .
    Please don’t sit next to me .

  11. Jade

    This whole thread makes me laugh. I understand everyone’s feelings on this. I dreaded flights with babies. I was once on a 17 hour flight to Australia with 8 babies and when one stopped crying another one started. When we landed a man next to us lost his temper and yelled at the parents in front of us. It struck me how pointless and nasty it was. We may have felt aggravated and sleep deprived but that’s flying! Imagine how the parents felt!? How ridiculous to suggest its selfish. Are parents not suppose to use public transport at all, in case it inconveniences you? If you can’t afford a private charter, either invest in some noise cancelling headphones or deal with it!

  12. Traveling with our grandson who is 3 months. Parents are not prepared but this Grandma is! I have been reading and preparing for today. Thank you for your article! Wish us luck. At least I will have a change of clothes with an extra outfit for my grandson in my bag, lol.

    1. Tai Kojro-Badziak

      you got this! glad we can help!

  13. Nika

    Yes! Noise cancelling earphones – or plain earplugs – for everyone! Problem solved!

  14. Cheyann

    I really appreciated this article. Unfortunately some moms have no choice as mentioned before. I didn’t want to take my 2 1/2 month old baby with me on a plane, but you can’t plan for death in the family and when you live across the country a flight is the only viable option. Just be patient with us mommas.

  15. Alex

    Best tip put your infant in pjs pack a spare, they will keep them warm and if they get to hot you can unzip it to let them get cool air. Buy snacks at the airport makes getting through security faster. (Was held up in Denver for an hour waiting for our snacks to be “checked”). Ask when checking in if their are any rows with empty seat they usually will move you to that row. Book where extra leg room is for international flight, you can sit on the floor back to the wall while your baby sleeps in your seat. If you have a toddler skip bringing the stroller and just buy a cheap umbrella one at destination than leave it with the hotel staff when flying back home.. 20 bucks vrs one extra bulky item to juggle at airport. Tablets with downloaded shows and movies life savers! Suckers great for landing and take off. I find most people are willing to move to open seats or are very helpful when they see you have a little one. My child has flown to 11 countries 6 states all before age of 2. Also if flying around Europe they will give you an extra buckle to wrap around your child when on your laps, be prepared always seems the kids lose their minds when they get strapped in with them. I also found my child does better on day flights vrs over night you would think the opposite but some airlines leave lights on or to noisey. Oh one last tip I think actually this might be the best one… book your seats at the very last row of the plane… you can let your little ones walk around the back cabin where the crew sits so your not disrupting the rest of the plane also can stand back their when your child is crying. (Send the husband to stand back their, the crew is always so nice to me but seems to be rude to my wife whenever she would stand back their lol)

  16. Merisha

    I’m actually very upset with the comments on this regarding parents who travel are selfish and rude. I have traveled a couple times now with my baby, once for a family reunion and another for a funeral. I’ll be traveling again next month to see my dad whose health is failing, I do Not apologize for flying instead of driving, which would result in a very tired cranky baby with diaper rash from sitting for several hours in a stationary position and also cost Way more in gas and fees since our family has 1 car and my husband needs to get to work. You are the ones being selfish and rude not taking others situations into consideration.
    She slept through all but one flight and she was almost 18 months on the last one. I’ve learned it’s best to have the stroller just for the sake of carrying everything through the airport (I’m pregnant with number 2) and snacks and water are a must. She still nurses on take off and landing so no screaming but she actually enjoys the plane ride and is friendly with everyone around her. The flight crew always enjoys her and she makes the other passengers laugh and smile.
    I have a graco stroller and it’s lightweight enough that they let me gate check it which makes handling my daughter easier. She has a tablet that is for travel purposes only and it keeps her entertained and busy. I also have a backpack leash for her cause she runs off a lot, she’s very active and has been walking since 8 months. If you prepare yourself and your baby it’s nor a complete nightmare for everyone involved

    1. Tai Kojro-Badziak

      HOORAY! I’m so glad you’re raising a happy traveler 🙂 Start early and make if fun and you’ll never have troubles!

  17. Ankit

    My baby is 18 days old
    Can he is travel in flight

    1. I would talk to your doctor first. You want to make sure your baby has those first vaccines before they fly.

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